“What's a question you wish an interviewer would ask you, but they never have?”
The idea that one day you will be "good enough" to achieve your goals is a pernicious one.
It sets the timeframe of accomplishment in an as-to-be-determined point in the future, which is never now. And yet life is always lived in the now, and any progress you must make toward your future goals must necessarily be made in the now.
Stop deferring going after what you want. You're good enough now.
Hesitate, and your window of opportunity will close.
The first draft of a novel is all about finishing. It's like running from a giant boulder that's trying to crush you: you go as fast as possible, and you don't look back. Speed is helpful because speed means you're working on it on a daily basis, and the more mental space the draft is occupying in your head, the better you're able to build connections between the various moving parts and also generate new ideas that feed into the old ones.
The secret to finishing is momentum - a compulsive desire to keep going until the thing is done. The momentum should pull you along with it, forming a consuming desire to finish.
That's why distractions are bad - distractions pull you out of the draft and wasting time on reddit isn't a good way to get writing done.
Sometimes shittier technology represents a better way to do something, because it's the absence of features that's useful. I do my first drafts with an iPad and a Bluetooth natural keyboard (since I have mild carpal tunnel symptoms). It's great because it's hard to multi-task on an iPad - switching to reddit takes effort and palpably interrupts your workflow. If you're not editing a piece, and just focused on production, an iPad is great.
Someone I know recently apologized to me for being weak.
I asked her: why?
Why would you need to apologize for that?
A person is only is strong or as weak as they are capable of being in that moment.
So much of our lives is spent directing hatred against ourselves.
In life, you can never do better than your best. If you're weak in one specific instance, it's because of factors outside of your control. Everything in your life led up to that moment of weakness, and you could turn back the clock a hundred times, and you'd get the same faltering result.
Regret is a form of self hatred. Dispense with it. See the determinism of this world for what it is. Release yourself from the guilt of weakness, of action, of inaction. See the world as a grand machine, an arrangement of particles tracking forward in time, of which you are only a part. Be at peace with it.
"Either I will find a way, or I will make one."
I found myself repeating this affirmation over and over again many months ago. I was deep in the throes of a depression that I was determined to find a way out of. I eventually did, but it took almost a year.
Using a daily affirmation proved to be a useful tool, one that I found myself falling back on repeatedly. A friend of mine recommended the usage of affirmations to me, and I recently listened to a Tim Ferriss podcast where Scott Adams, the cartoonist behind Dilbert, spoke at length about the utility of affirmations. The basic theory is that this type of cognitive looping around a single idea primes you to find things in your environment that will help you to achieve your goal.
The recent victory (and defeat) of Conor McGregor had me thinking about Irrational Self Confidence as a general tool for achieving goals.
What exactly constitutes "irrational" self confidence?
What context might this be useful in? And what contexts might this be mal-adaptive in?
Perhaps beliefs aren't meant to be accurate models of reality, but rather, tools for achieving certain ends.
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Bret Easton Ellis