I've met many people who have suffered horrific trauma, and there's one thing I've found that's tremendously important:
no matter what, you must not see yourself as a victim.
If you see yourself as a victim, you will become a victim. Being a victim isn't just a state of affairs, but it's an identity. It's a way of interfacing with others around you. If you focus on your weakness, you will cultivate your weakness. You will move away from healing, forgiveness, and working on your own resiliency. This is not to take away the right of victims to justice, only to emphasize that ruminating on how you have been wronged is not a fruitful endeavour. If anything, it's destructive. It allows your trauma to overtake your life, and become its sole focus, closing you off from the possibilities of joy that lie beyond the corner.
Life breaks everyone, doesn't it?
The trick, then, is to avoid staying broken.
Whether by yourself, or with the help of others, do your best to put yourself back together again.
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Bret Easton Ellis